
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
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What qualities do you truly want in a partner?
Do you believe in manifestation when it comes to love?
Today, Jay explores how you can break free from insecurity and build lasting confidence using science-backed techniques and practical mindset shifts. Jay opens the episode by addressing the invisible forces that keep us stuck in self-doubt, such as fear of failure, scarcity mindset, and negative self-talk. He explains that our brains are wired for survival, not confidence, which means that many of our insecurities stem from a natural instinct to protect ourselves from perceived threats.
Jay introduces seven powerful strategies for retraining the brain for confidence. First, he explains the importance of stopping the brain’s “threat detection system”, which makes us perceive challenges as dangers rather than opportunities. He then highlights unconscious competence, where we often fail to recognize the skills we’ve already mastered. By tapping into this, we can use our existing strengths as a foundation for greater self-assurance.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Overcome the Fear of Being Judged
How to Let Go of What No Longer Serves You
How to Take Control of Your Confidence
How to Shift from Self-Doubt to Self-Belief
How to Train Your Brain to Build Lasting Confidence
Confidence is not about being perfect; it’s about showing up, learning, and giving yourself the grace to evolve. You have everything within you to shift from doubt to self-trust.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:48 How to Manifest Love this Year
05:35 The State of Desperation and Detachment
07:18 Desperation Leads to a Lot of Challenges
09:45 Desperation Leads to Overthinking
13:06 Desperation Leads to Toxic Situations
15:18 Things You Do When You Detach Yourself from Others
21:22 #1: Take Small Steps Toward Love
23:48 #2: Be Patient for Love
24:55 #3: Align What You Think, Say and Do
26:26 #4: Live as if You Already Have Love
28:09 #5: Find Healing Before Your Next Relationship
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635 - How to Manifest Your Dream Partner this Year (Desperation is BLOCKING You) Fri, 14 Feb 2025
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634 - Claudia Oshry: How to Stop Letting Your Body Image Hold You Back & Build Lasting Confidence Wed, 12 Feb 2025
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633 - LOVE EXPERT Stephan Speaks: 7 Ways You are Blocking Yourself From Meeting Your Soulmate (Change Your Patterns to Find the ONE) Mon, 10 Feb 2025
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632 - 7 Ways to Train Your Brain to Go From Insecurity to Confidence Fri, 07 Feb 2025
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631 - Bill Gates: The Untold Story of Who Bill Gates REALLY Is Mon, 03 Feb 2025
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630 - Stop Draining Your Energy In 2025: These 3 Habits Will Save You So Much Time! Fri, 31 Jan 2025
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629 - Dr. Tara Swart: 4 Brain Hacks To Manifest Anything Into Your Life (Science-Backed Method!) Mon, 27 Jan 2025
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628 - Brain Expert: 6 Habits to Boost Focus & Concentration By 48 Percent (Hack Your Dopamine!) with TJ Power Fri, 24 Jan 2025
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627 - Andy Galpin: 3 Ways to Lose Weight and Gain Muscle (the Fitness Plan You Will ACTUALLY Stick To) Mon, 20 Jan 2025
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626 - Big Sean: 5 Ways to Get Unstuck From Where You Are Now (Simple Strategies to Eliminate Endless Hours of Work) Fri, 17 Jan 2025
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625 - Bryan Johnson: New SHOCKING Science on How to Reverse Your Age by 31 Years & The Damaging Impact of 1 Bad Night Sleep Mon, 13 Jan 2025
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624 - 4 Simple Manifestation & Visualization Hacks to Help Achieve Your 2025 Goals Fri, 10 Jan 2025
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623 - Mel Robbins: How to Use the ‘Let Them Theory’ (A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About) Mon, 06 Jan 2025
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622 - 6 Step Blueprint to Achieve All Your Goals for 2025 (Proven Method- Don't Skip This) Fri, 03 Jan 2025
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620 - 10 Things I Am Leaving Behind in 2024 to Make Space for 2025 Fri, 27 Dec 2024
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614 - 5 Ways to Achieve a ‘Rich Life’ & Change Your Mindset from Scarcity to Abundance Fri, 06 Dec 2024
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613 - Codie Sanchez: How to Make Money if You Don’t Have Money (4 Step Process to Make Money Today) Mon, 02 Dec 2024
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612 - 3 Tools To Build Self Confidence in a World where People Make You Feel Insecure Fri, 29 Nov 2024
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611 - Jordan Peterson: 5 Ways to Shift Envy into Growth & How to Recognize and Pursue Your True Calling Mon, 25 Nov 2024
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610 - 4 Types of Toxic People in Your Life & 4 Tools to Stop Letting Them Drain You Fri, 22 Nov 2024
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609 - Lori Gottlieb: 7 Answers to Dating Questions You’re Afraid to Ask & How to Break Free from Relationship Timelines Mon, 18 Nov 2024
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608 - 4 Simple Habits to Boost Focus & Stop Getting Distracted Fri, 15 Nov 2024
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607 - Alicia Keys: 5 Ways to Overcome Self Doubt & Build Confidence Within Mon, 11 Nov 2024
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606 - Can You Be Friends with Your Ex? Fri, 08 Nov 2024
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603 - Tom Hanks: #1 Theory Tom Uses in Order to Live a Balanced and Fulfilled Life Mon, 28 Oct 2024
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602 - The Tell Them Method - How To Stop Holding On To Emotional Baggage and Regret Fri, 25 Oct 2024
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600 - 3 Things To Do If You're Still Not Over Your Ex Fri, 18 Oct 2024
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599 - Jelly Roll: 5 Powerful Ways to Overcome Guilt and Shame & How to Finally Forgive Yourself Mon, 14 Oct 2024
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598 - Can People Really Change? 3 Signs Someone Will Change Fri, 11 Oct 2024
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597 - Dr Joe Dispenza: 5 Ways You're Blocking Yourself from Manifesting Love & 7 Steps to Attract Genuine Love Mon, 07 Oct 2024
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596 - How To Master Your Emotions in 90 Seconds & Save Yourself From Regret Fri, 04 Oct 2024
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595 - Shawn Mendes: How to Let Go of Your Past Self and Fully Embrace Who You’ve Become Today Mon, 30 Sep 2024
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594 - The 4 Types of People You Meet in Life & How to Handle The Way They Treat You Fri, 27 Sep 2024
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593 - Andrew Huberman: How to Increase Your Dopamine by 60% & Optimize Your Brain’s Response to Stress Mon, 23 Sep 2024
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592 - Why You are Experiencing Dating Burnout & 3 Practical Tips to Stop Having Repeated Disappointments in Dating Fri, 20 Sep 2024
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591 - Ryan Holiday: Why You Need to Reparent Your 14-Year-Old Self & How to Overcome the Fear of Not Being Good Enough Mon, 16 Sep 2024
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589 - Nicole LePera: How to Break the Cycle of Trauma Bonds & Stop Toxic Relationship Habits Mon, 09 Sep 2024
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588 - 12 Hard Lessons I Learned In The Last 12 Months - Birthday Special Fri, 06 Sep 2024
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587 - Nicky Jam: How to Forgive Yourself From the Past & Free Yourself From Shame and Trauma Mon, 02 Sep 2024
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586 - 10 Proven Strategies to Boost Productivity & Create a Clear Plan for Achieving Your Goals Fri, 30 Aug 2024